Ok so long story short...(at least tying to)
After being told that the US or a known donor are our only options and not really being happy with our clinic we decided to take a bit more control into our hands.
We began researching alternatives to the US due to how expensive it is. We found 2 popular options South Africa and Czech Republic, we were not 100% confident going overseas but $ is an issue.
We contacted a popular reproductive lawyer who was gobsmacked that we would go overseas and asked why we weren't doing this here in Canada. We mentioned that we wanted an anonymous donor and since the current (crappy) legislation doesn't allow for egg donors we were forced to look into alternatives. She said we could still do this here and there are donor agencies in Canada...WHAT?!?!
She gave me that names of them and after emailing them to get some info I'm just angry. Not at the agency but at my current clinic...why would they not tell me about this? Aren't they there to help me? Keeping in the back of my mind that I called the clinic previously in our alternative research to see if they could shed some light on the overseas options and all I got was "no comment" thru his receptionist. The lawyer said that they are one of the most conservative clinics in Canada. DH thinks its because they won't make as much money off if this route.
I'm scared and excited. Trying to find a different clinic now. Seems like the cost is about the same as going to Africa...but no lions, I guess I'll just go to the zoo.
Have you looked into My Fairy Godmother. They have a lot of donors. I am not sure where you are in Canada, but there are few clinics in Toronto that have in house annon donor programs. I researched this option, but chose to go to the US as in the end, the price was similar given the huge agency fee.
ReplyDeletei looked at both MFG and Little Miracles. Its still a gray area...technically we can't pay the donor but we can give a gift (a gift of $)...sounds a bit odd to me but a little bend in the law with a lawyer standing behind me...I'll give her a go!
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